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Some interesting ideas for further discussion on the topic of mother-child relationship.

Tracy Hogg with Melinda Blau, "The secret language of babies", Essays Oscar Mondadori, 354 pp., € 8.80.

Nine months of anxious waiting passed to obtain information, courses, question friends and acquaintances. Then comes the baby. It begins an amazing adventure of being parents. A journey full of excitement, but also of deep insecurities, while which you often need to be confirmed, suggestions, answers. Why are you crying? How can I calm him down? What does he like and what is not? It will always be so difficult? A new mother to the many questions that arise every day in this book meets Tracy Hogg, for his exceptional ability to communicate with babies is called "the woman whispers to the children." With the support of specific examples and true stories, it helps new parents to guess the desires of their child, to interpret the language, distinguishing the different types of crying and reading the body movements. It teaches how to build a true relationship with the child, turning every event into an opportunity to know each other better: feeding, bathing, massage, sleep. "

Tracy Hogg is a graduate nurse in England, such as specialized nurses. In 1997 she founded Baby Technique, a facility through which offers individual counseling to mothers and fathers, take lessons, lectures and exercises for baby sitters. Lives in Los Angeles and is the mother of two daughters.


Melinda Blau, a journalist and writer, specializes in ata themes of family and health.

Baby Scrapbook Wording

Building a dialogue of love

forgive me if it is necessary that I go a little faster ... The moment a child enters for the first time in the lives of his parents is so delicate and complex that no doubt will not be able to talk about everything that happens, my attempt is rather to give a quick overview of this event, trying to touch those who in my opinion are the key points.
So where were we? Ah, yes, we were still surrounded by confusion and uncertainty of the first moments after the birth of our baby.
Only now, after maybe one or two weeks after his arrival among us, we begin to "see" better. Before, between tiredness, maybe cesarean wound pain, incessant comings and goings of friends and relatives, we did not have enough space to really make us realize that yes, this is truly our baby, and is finally here with us. Of course, in his first months of life, communication between the child and parents is still a bit "limited", based mostly on the plant as the only signal of need, hardship, etc.. This does not help matters to mom still inexperienced, the interpretation of the meaning of the baby's crying is something that the mother learns step by step, with time and being with her child, but at the matter is not quite so simple .
The cry of the child is able to create such a mother in the emotional upheaval that can sometimes be very difficult to manage. On the other hand, in this case, we see how nature has worked so well: all puppies, and even then the children, are made in every detail in order to ensure the protection of the adult. Soft, rounded features, large eyes, larger head than the rest of the body, and finally the tears, so that can disturb the heart of a mother. All "designed" to elicit tenderness in adults and a protective instinct that allows the puppy, in itself helpless and defenseless, its survival.
The cry then. Something difficult to interpret, but very useful because it is the only way that the child has to get in touch with us. The important thing to do is listen. I know it's difficult and time: the mother's first instinct would be to stop the crying, of course, but sometimes it can be valuable to pause a moment to listen "as" our baby is crying. At first all the plants look the same, a little also because my mother is still very "rusty" in his new role, and also because of the tiredness and the large (sometimes overwhelming) sense of responsibility, can not "really" a hear what your baby tries to communicate. Let us ask instead: what happened immediately before the baby started to cry? There have been signs that perhaps we have ignored? We also observe his body movements, important to understand the reason for the tears. Well, let's be listening attentively. It 's like a language unknown to us, of which First we need to learn the ABC, before putting together the complete sentences. Not only do we believe that we are having to learn: even our children are studying there, even for what they initially say or do is difficult to understand, they also observe us, our face, our expressions, tone and warmth of our voices that have long since learned to distinguish from the other, the touch of our hands on their skin ... We communicate with them through the five senses, for now their only way of knowing the world around them. For this reason it is important to always be aware of the feelings we experience when we are with our children. If we are calm and quiet, they will feel our voice, our eyes see it, feel the touch of our hands. If we are tense and / or angry, the same will happen. Imagine for a moment of not being able to explain anything that happens and you hear around you, felt the feelings, but do not know how to give them a name, you do not know if you come from you or from outside, and heard enough. This is what a baby test. Only then will succeed in giving meaning to what he feels, to distinguish between self and other by itself, to understand the intention behind the behavior of others, the beginning is pure sensation. It is therefore essential that both the mother or the parent in general, to be very careful what kind of emotions and feelings is sending his child and also to "give back" by giving them a meaning. Then we can tell our child who cries because he has sleep: "Do not worry, nothing happens, you just need to take a nap," or, if he's hungry, "Yes, baby, mama you know you're hungry, now prepares you jelly. " At first perhaps may seem unnecessary, since we believe that our baby does not "understand" what we're saying yet, but this is only partly true, because if there is no doubt that he does not understand the literal meaning of what we say, he understands However perfectly the tone of our voice and will feel reassured, because someone out there proves to him that he had heard his call and understand why.
As Bion has taught us, my mother has the task of collecting the emotions and feelings that the child expresses but that are impossible for him to play and "work" within himself to restituirgiele with meaning. So let's see how, at a careless observer, it would seem that in these early times, the communication between mother and child is limited or almost absent, while the opposite and this is the stage where you are laying the foundations for the construction of a satisfactory relationship between mother and child.

Shingles On The Breast

The first moments with our baby

Nine months have passed, maybe a little less, maybe a little more, and here we get to know our little one. Suddenly, the relationship with him changes, we are now in the arms frugoletto a flesh and blood, perhaps weeping, so fragile and helpless, so needy of all, we would probably ask: Now what? What do I do? We will surely have said something like: Do not worry, you'll see when that happens you'll be all natural! Well, you know what I say to you? It is not true. Or at least not right away. It 'not to be believed: that little that you felt up to a few hours before kick inside of you, now is there, your arms, and he wants you all to himself. Which is obviously great, but if we get a view of a woman who spent nine months of waiting, has had the experience of childbirth (whether spontaneous or Caesarean section) and is perhaps a little tired, maybe things can be seen differently. Emotions are really long, the body was put to the test and everything you would want at this point is a bit of rest. But the beauty is that all the people around, who until two hours before worried that we do not tire, they took us shopping bags etc.., Suddenly seem to expect that we enter immediately into the role of mothers tubes, with a smile on his lips . Now, then, in hospitals, is in vogue and rooming in, meaning that the child is left in the room with the mother 24 hours a day. This practice is certainly positive in some ways, particularly to promote the child's early attachment to the breast and then stimulate the production of milk, which needs a few days to settle on the needs of the child, but I think you should evaluate the situation from woman to woman, to pay attention even the mood of the mother before leaving the baby all the time without even bothering to give any advice on how to proceed. Take for instance my experience: the last four months of pregnancy to rest at home for risk of preterm delivery, full attention, I felt great, but I could not do almost anything, then caesarean to give birth to my twins, with some problem of blood values \u200b\u200bupside luckily resolved. I was happy to finally know my two little puppy, but did not really know what to do with them, and say that with my work on things I had read a lot, but this was not something I had read, no, this was the reality, I assure you, is something quite different. I just wanted to get some sleep, to recover some energy. Instead I was surrounded by hospital staff who kept telling me: But, sir, must take the breast, if not now attack the attacks more ... And to my requests to take them for a few hours in the nursery so you can sleep a little, they made me feel like a bad mother, one who "did not want his daughters". Behold, I tell you this to tell you that when you finally put your puppy in the world, a bit of rest you deserve it.
There will be those who will not understand this thing, and you will be tested physically and psychologically, you are fragile and can make you feel inadequate. So it's important that people close to you, your husband, your parents, you support in this delicate moment, recognize that you have really done an outstanding job and is now a rest is really the least you can have. When you choose a hospital or clinic where you will give birth to your puppy, find out about services offered to support the mothers about breastfeeding. The nurses are roaming the rooms and give advice on how to breastfeed? There is a possibility ilbimbo choose to send to the nest at night? Maybe not first think about it, but things are really important! Breastfeeding is a natural thing, it's true, but it is not always so simple, especially at the beginning, and it is very easy for an unfair attack, run into problems such as cracked nipples or engorgement, which would add to fatigue and stress already accumulated. Pretend to be advised on this issue, the staff is there for this reason! It 'important that breastfeeding is a serene experience, where mother and child build a harmony that will accompany them for the first months of life of the child. In almost all of the ASL are breastfeeding support groups, where mothers can meet to exchange advice and support, if you feel that you are not experiencing breastfeeding as you would have thought, if you feel tense and frustrated, go to these groups with your children. If nothing else, take a breath of fresh air, see new people, you can talk and express your concerns and maybe find that most of the mothers living exactly what you are experiencing. At first it seems impossible, but gradually the confusion and uncertainty of the early days and are not really begin to make contact with your children, to know them, understand their needs. They, meanwhile, get to know you, after all the hustle and bustle of birth need a moment to understand what happened to ...